We all make mistakes in life. Eventually, you are left with two choices:
1) You can whine and mope about your circumstances, complain that life is unfair to you, wish you had been better, wish you had acted differently, and build up a lifetime of regrets. -or-
2) You can seek to understand what happened and use that knowledge to improve yourself as a person. No regrets. Only a lesson learned.
It all starts with making a decision between the two. What follows is the need to shift your mentality and apply yourself to what you learned. Only then will you change your habits and form new, healthier ones that direct you to towards the kind of life you've always wanted.
It is NOT easy. In fact, deciding to learn and grow is a LOT harder than sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. It requires constant, active effort to focus your mind on the application of new principles and on building a better future for yourself.
Everything within you will fight you to give up and to settle on the status quo. To be comfortable in the person you've always been... the one who made these mistakes before and who WILL make them again. When this happens, you have two choices to fight it:
1) Willpower. You can struggle to make this change by yourself, forcing new habits by sheer self-motivation. Unfortunately, willpower is limited and almost always eventually runs out (think New Year's resolutions).
2) God. You can choose to depend on God to see you through. I think this is actually a much easier and more consistent way to bring about change. Below, I demonstrate how He's guided me towards making improvements in all areas of my life.
Lessons I've learned in (must email or message me on IG for passwords to protected posts):
Dating
Appreciating the Things That Really Matter
Dating Around and Sleeping Around - 2/18/2017
Giving up PokemonGo and Other Videogames - 2/24/2017
Giving up Porn - 3/14/2017
Celibacy Prior to Marriage - 3/16/2017
Unconditional Love - 3/17/2017
Dealing with Breakups - 4/9/2017
Cheating Emotionally and Psychologically - 4/15/2017
Relationships
Giving and Receiving Grace - 3/27/2017
Kindness is not Weakness - 4/28/2017
Some People Were Just Meant to Meet - The Burned Nurse - 5/10/2017
I Hated My Mom Before I Loved Her - 5/13/2017
Healing the Scars Left by My Dad - 6/17/2017
Building Fellowship Around You
Self
On Anger - 3/12/2017
Devoting Too Much to Career - 3/13/2017
Being Selfish with Money - 3/14/2017
Discipline in the Small Things - 4/23/2017
How to Get Past Self-Doubt/Guilt/Regret after Making a Medical Error - 5/17/2017
What Kind of Idiot Talks to God? - 5/28/2017
Struggling with Pride - 6/2/2017
On How Others Perceive Me - 6/22/2017
Giving up Cursing
Stuff I'm still figuring out and other random stuff:
The Promise - 4/2/2017
What if her new boyfriend doesn't want you to talk to her? And her to you? - 5/5/2017
Please share with someone you love if you think they will find meaning in it.